My husband and I have discussed her ups and downs, her mood swings, her loudness and her resistance to change. She was diagnosed with a hearing problem 2 years ago but we were told that she would grow out of it. I think there is more that was over looked. Ever since she was 3 she has flapped like an autistic child but she is very social unlike being autistic. She has a very hard time reading people and while a look to a normal child will let them know to cut it out. She on the other hand needs many verbal reminders. When she finally realizes it she breaks down and cries, which isn't normal behavior.
We could have her tested and be confirmed that she has Aspberger's. Then she has a label that there really isn't a cure for. Then she may feel that she's not right and be harder on herself than she already is. She knows that she's different and she's okay with it.
She was gone for 11 days and since she got back we have had our moments of butting heads and the emotional coaster rides she gets when she doesn't understand what it is she is doing is wrong. On the good side I think it maybe sinking in that, some of what she does, does effect others around her. That the world doesn't revolve around her and how her words do hurt others and she should think about what she says and does.
We've been working on having her try to verbalize more than cry and throw a tantrum. She doesn't quite get it sometimes but this week she finally did. I let her watch Sabrina the Teenage Witch on Youtube. I told her it was so close to her bed time that she could only watch 10 minutes of it. So when one part was up that was it. When time came, she was very upset and told me she hated me. I reminded her what the deal was and why she was done for the night. She went away and came back and apologized. She was sorry for saying it and really didn't mean it. I told her I understood how she felt but she needs to think before she speaks. I know this really may not seem like a big deal to some but if you knew what hard times we've had with her not being explosive and crying, you would be proud too.
It's a small step but it's a step I hope she can take to school with her and apply to her friends. She doesn't explode in school, thank goodness but she does have a hard time not playing the same thing over and over again. She seriously won't give up trying to persuade everyone to play what they've been playing. I'm hoping when they say "No it's time for something else." she will go with the flow and not be stuck on repeat! I'm keeping my fingers crossed and hoping that things are finally starting to click!